You are in good relationship with a person they love you and they care for you but you don’t appreciate it. Unfortunately, some people will even take advantage of the person they are with. They lie, deceive, manipulate, cause all kinds of drama breaking the person’s heart. We all want a good relationship but unfortunately some people when they get into one they don’t know how to handle it. There are different reasons for this. A person may have been in a string of bad relationships so much that they don’t even recognize a good one when they see it . Then you have people that just can’t commit but won’t be truthful about it and get into a relationship anyway knowing they will break that person’s heart. It’s so hard these days to have a meaningful relationship its like a lot of people just want to be lifetime bachelors and bachelorettes. The dating scene is so messed up these days its crazy. A lot a people don’t just date cause they are trying to have someone special in their lives its because they have some hidden agenda. Why can’t some people realize that you can’t play the field forever at some point you will have to settle down and if you can’t find anyone because you burned a lot of people by leaving a trail of broken hearts and got a bad reputation for it then What? The rest of your life in solitude or dealing with a bunch of people that are not worth your time. Seriously, GET A CLUE!!! I admit I’ve burned both ends of the candle at one time I played the field long time ago and now trying to settle down with the right person. And yes I was in a relationship were I was being the “good girl” and did anything and everything in the relationship cause I was deeply in love with the person. Unfortunately, the person never appreciate the person I was, how good I was to him and he completely took advantage of me so after a long run I left cause I was over the bullshit. Felt like I got out for time served after that relationship LOL. Hence Love = Insanity I can’t say this enough cause if you knew what I have been through with this dude you will think this woman is insane to have been with him so long or really been with him PERIOD. Now he is missing me and all the the good things about me and wishing he never screwed up cause now he realizes how good he had it and wants me back yada yada yada all I hear is the character from the cartoon the Peanuts the nanny when she talk you don’t hear words all you hear is Waah Waah Waah Waah Waah Waah. Hence Missing the Water when its Gone. People need to realize when you have a good thing cherish it and be grateful you have it don’t wait till its too late cause once its gone its gone and you can never get it back.
In BBM chat why don’t some people get the point that not everyone uses it to get a date? There are people out there like me that use it to meet friends to have good conversation with. Key word being “friends”. Friends Definition: one attached to another by affection or esteem b : acquaintance Get it FRIENDS. I’m so sick of men trying to ask me out on a date, try to be my man, or try to make arrangements to have sex it is ridiculous. Number one I don’t do the online dating thing I know it’s a bit old-fashioned but i prefer to meet my men in person whether I meet them at the store, bar, beach, through a mutual friend, etc. For other people its fine but it’s just not for me. It’s already bad enough I have to deal with the men that always want to have a sex chat like I’m some sex chat line or send me nude pictures but this is ridiculous. Especially, the men that are in another state or country. Lets get one thing straight I don’t do long distance relationships for a reason (been there, done that) it just does not work out when there is too much distance between two people. You lose interest eventually its like the saying goes “Out of sight, Out of mind”. Unless, you really love the person and willing to make it work it won’t stand a chance. You know how many men I had to delete off my BBM contacts cause of this its ridiculous. And why can’t some men take no for an answer? For example: A guy was interested in me and let me know he wanted to be with me. He asked me whether or not I wanted to be with him. I politely told him no he asked for a reason I let him know I don’t do long distance relationships and I’m interested in someone else. Very polite and honest. But no he just could not except that he had to carry on trying to convince me why I should be with him and how together we can make it real if we work on it. (Mind you dude lives in another country) Seriously dude I just said no what part of no don’t you understand the N or the O. Then he wants to carry on do I hate him do I think he is ugly is it the long distance I mean Really? I just told you the reason plus I don’t even know you. And he gets upset if I don’t talk to him DAMN I do have a life I’m not going to spend it talking to you all day. And because of this attitude this man asks me stupid shit of why I don’t talk to him why I keep acting like I don’t care why I keep breaking his heart am I fucking someone now Seriously?! Fucking psycho stalker *shakes my head*. And he likes to Ping me to death. Ping : The Ping function is useful for times when you may want to get the attention of a BBM contact, and either don’t have anything specific to say, or may want to let him know that you want him to get back to you. When you Ping a contact, he will receive a BBM message saying “Ping,” and his BlackBerry device will vibrate. The same will happen if you receive a Ping. <———— I hate this feature I wish RIM (Research in Motion (name of company that creates the programs for blackberry)) would get rid of this feature its a nuisance!
What part of I’m busy do you not understand? I don’t have to say what I’m doing IT’S NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS ! He acts like he is my man or something (when he is not) it makes no sense at all. Then he had the nerve to ask me for my real name so he can add me to his Facebook friends (HELL NO!) so he can stalk me on Facebook I don’t think so. In the end I had no choice but to delete him and block him cause it was just too much to deal with. I keep getting these type of men in BBM no matter what disclaimer I put on a BBM add page of restrictions I have when I add you to my BBM contacts. Unfortunately, a lot of these men just don’t listen. This is why men and women don’t always get along you men don’t listen to what we say and don’t respect our wishes. ATTENTION MEN: If a woman is interested in you whether for a relationship or just sex trust me she will let you know. Trying to force someone to like you or be with you is not going to work if a woman is not interested she is just not interested Period! Let me tell you men something that I’m sure you have heard before women know in the first few minutes of meeting a man whether in person or online whether she is interested or not in a man. This is so true if there is no type of chemistry or attraction there then we won’t date you. BBM Is a Instant Chat not Match.com and not 1-900-sex-chat! I can’t say this enough this is a blog I wrote. Men need to get a clue you come at women the wrong way and you wonder why you can’t get a date and you are left sitting at home alone beating your meat. If it is meant to be it will happen don’t force it. GET A CLUE ALREADY!!!!!!!!!
The advancement of technology has been great and has made everything more convenient. Unfortunately, a little too convenient have we gotten so lazy and/or so busy that we can’t even find time to date seriously. I don’t believe in the online dating thing I’m more old-fashioned when it comes to dating. I rather meet a person in public somewhere than to waste my time talking to them online for weeks on end and to meet them to find out that I don’t even like the person. Cause you can talk all day long but until you meet the person you won’t know if the chemistry is right between you. And as for all those online dating sites I don’t care how much surveys or questionnaires you have people can still lie on them so I don’t trust them. You can end up with a fucking psychopath or something. Now how does this have anything to do with the title of this post you maybe wondering I will explain. Unfortunately, these days BBM (for those of you who don’t know blackberry messenger) is used to get dates and have sex chats. It’s hard to find someone to add to your bbm contacts that just want to have a good conversation without the sex and the come-ons. I had to delete so many men I’ve added from my contacts just because that’s all they wanted sex or to date me. Like seriously I’m not desperate and besides why of all places would I choose bbm to find a date or a boyfriend when all i have to do is pick up the phone and call someone seriously come on. But you get a lot of that and not just men acting that way women too. It’s like some of these people can’t just have a conversation with you anymore unless its sexual in nature or they trying to hook up with you and it’s sad it just shows me how mindless you are if all you can do it talk about that instead of having a real conversation. Why would I want to have a sex chat with a total stranger what I do look like a bbm whore? I save that type of chat for someone that’s either my boyfriend or my lover. Then the ones that really kill me are the men (usually from other countries) talking bout I love you, I want to be with you, I want to marry you, and I’m like WHAT?! I just added you to my bbm contacts, I don’t know you and what I look like your green card move the hell on. Did I forget the pictures OMG why do people just send you naked pictures of themselves to any and everyone it’s ridiculous. One I don’t want them so don’t send them to me, but some of these men even after I tell them this they still send them men are so hard-headed then you wonder why men and women don’t get along. Men don’t listen and are selfish point-blank. Then you have what they call the ping feature I feel it’s the worse feature in the world whoever invented it needs to be shot. People use the ping feature when someone is taking to long to respond back or they want to talk to someone so they try to get their attention. Some people take the ping feature too far and want to use it all the damn time even when your status says BUSY. It is not crucial for me to talk to you all the damn time I have what you need to get A LIFE! Excuse me if I have better things to do than to talk to you all damn day. I feel that some of these people are just lonely and need attention and I can understand that but don’t bug the hell out of me for it I can careless especially I don’t know you leave me the hell alone point-blank! Sometimes I wonder why do I even bother with bbm but there are people in my contacts that are decent so I still bbm I just wish everyone else will just get it together. So unless you are match.com, eharmony, 1-900-Fuck-Me or 1-900-I’m-Horny then leave all the sex chat and dating to the professionals. Cause last time I checked you are not paying me or anyone else 2.99 a min for dirty talk or 19.95 for 6 or 12 mths for dating services. Better yet get off your ass and go out and public and find a damn date hows that?!!!!!! (Laughing)